2023 May Newsletter
Candalada
May We Talk About March: A Quest to Heal
The Newsletter is special. I have been delivering news on topics beyond hair care since 2014. Every once in a while reflecting can help me see that an experience that seems random is a part of a larger pattern. Before I get to the big reveal of what I did this past March lets take a brief look at the past. The Hair Therapy Newsletter history.
November 3rd, 2014 - Hair Therapy blog made its Debut covering a cancer fundraiser
December 2014 - International Beauty in Northern Virginia
August 2015 to September 2015 - 9 entries covering cross country travel between VA-CA. The momentum kept steady with multiple entries per month until April 1st, 2016.
April 1st, 2016 - The April entry titled “The News” detailed Hair Therapy’s recently closed store front was being passed on to Ashley Bunton, my trusted and personal hair dresser.
November 3rd 2017 - The first official Newsletter was created (stories the first RAE, NikkRich Exhibit, Professor Hopkinson). The streamlined monthly display of various stories ran from 2017-2019
June, July, August 2019 - no entry
March 2020 - no entry
June, July 2022 - no entry
March 2023 - no entry
After looking at the timeline I noticed I am gone with the wind on some summer months and this is my second missed March. Perhaps it is time to consider taking breaks in these months or looking into what happened in my life at these times. I can’t remember what happened in March 2020, however, I can remember exactly what I was doing this past March.
CrUSHed and Unstable
Towards the end of January 2023 I had personal experience that was a bit painful. On February 6th, 2023 I had my first therapy recommended mental health day off. Everything surrounding Valentine’s Day was miserably annoying. In February I went to visit my trusted yoga specialist, OneWithEbony for a Thai Massage and Body Work.
Thai massages are good when you are in an emotional state and want to release the feelings. I have had three done since I lost my mom. Ebony conducted my mothers’ restorative yoga session when she was ill. I am very comfortable with her and feel connected to my mom when I receive her services.
After the message I felt ok for all of three days and then I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders again. I knew something was wrong because her magical touch usually floats me for a while. I needed to go deeper.
One With Ebony Trainings: 500RYT / Bodywork Therapy / Wellness Life Coach / Tantra / Meditation / Reiki Level I & II / Spiritual Life Guidance
On March 1st my therapist recommended Reiki with Dahlia. This was my introduction to Dahlia Rose who’s company name is Crystal Cognizance.
Through our initial phone conversation Dahlia determined 3 sessions, 2 weeks apart to address my past, my present and future would be the most impactful. It would be a bit of a commitment and she encouraged me to think about it and scale down if I prefer. I decided on the three sessions.
When I opened the door, I froze a little. I was in all black and she was in white. I felt like I was looking into my own eyes. Dahlia’s presence was calming and I had the sense there was no point in being dishonest about anything because she knew many things. My first session was scheduled to be 1.5 hours and ran 3 hours. I had no sense of time in while in the session.
In effort to not spoil the experience of what the session entails. I won’t recap every detail. This experience was the most personal to me of the three healers I worked with in March. I made the most mental progress here. Daliah offered a great deal of support through, text, voice conversations and in person sessions.
My first session required a lot of participation. Reading, dancing, talking, breathing, stretching, meditating, crying, drooling, coughing; it was intense. I slept for hours after. I was left with home work. I was given enough journal prompts for 2 weeks.
Modalities applied: Reiki, Pranashakthi, Sound healing, crystal healing, plant healing, energy body-field-channel recalibration, Akashic records healing, Ancestor healing.
By my second session the hole in my chest started to close. I was practicing mindfulness. I had prepared responses for things that bothered me. I felt myself regaining a perspective that involved accountably and confidence. This was time where I probably should have doubled down but I was feeling really good and went off track.
The last session well …..I MISSED IT! I missed it hanging out with the very person that pushed me to Daliah in the first place, only to be in tears the very next day.
It was through this experience that I learned it is NEVER a good idea to jeopardize your healing. Anything or anyone that is for you will be there after your session. There can be no bending or negotiating with yourself about this.
When I shamefully cancelled my session just hours prior before the start time she said, it is okay if you are not ready. You said you have a headache, think about that. Transference of energy can cause headaches also, your body is reacting to something. Lastly, when you are sick you must rest. I know feel like you are the same person but I assure you that you are not.
What I enjoyed the most about this experience was the write ups. I was given pages of information about myself. Long detailed readings and insights to what came to Dahlia during my sessions. The most memorable are the ages of my past self. The ages that she recalled are ages that significantly impacted my life. This is process of soul restoration that happens in the deepest levels of meditation.
I now have a different meaning for what it means to feel whole and I doubt I will ever use the phrase this is my other half after this experience.
I learned things about myself and my son. I connected with my brother who showed up at my door during both sessions unannounced and unplanned. Something about taking yourself seriously emits to others. They come to you and just want to be near you and when they do, you don’t mind. Connecting with my brother was an unexpected positive experience for me.
What scared me the most about this experience is I could see the habits and people that I would need to leave behind. I could see this new place I was building that some could not enter. Instead of continuing to build, I froze, I really wanted to take everyone with me. It has brought me no joy to stand still and I know I will have to go back and finish building soon.
Dalia Rose
Transcendental Counselor
Priestess in The Order of Melchizedek
Crystal Intuitive and Specialist
Multiple Certified Reiki Master/Teacher
Pranashakthi Master/Teacher
Soul Realignment Practitioner
703-772-4435 (cell)
RITA 3.24.23
I learned of Rita from the woman who does my henna. She has the most soothing voice. As she created art on my chest I thought to myself, I love the way she speaks to her children. I asked her how she stays centered. She disclosed that she was not always at peace and had to look deep within herself for quite sometime but it was worth the work. She did shadow work with Rita and has been feeling better ever since.
I reached out to Rita and it took some time for her to get back to me. She did a reading for me while I was in California. I was so skeptical about what a person can tell me from a distance. My pencil was smoking. She started with a prayer and after that she spoke for about 15 minutes straight.
I was truly taken back. She immediately spoke about my mother her hardships as a child and my explosive mothering. There was some insight about paths I have abandoned in my past that need to be revisited. A recommendation to break attachments to Issa that can lead to co dependency. She spoke about my purpose here on earth.
There was nothing positive for love for now. No one in my life currently is for me. That hurt to hear. I didn’t even want to believe that. Love was coming after more self work.
What enjoyed about this reading was the level of detail and not having to disclose much information. I had some answers to questions that I had given up on even asking. Some things about me make more sense I do not feel odd about what makes me different from others anymore.
There was homework issued at the end of the session that I have yet to complete. The purpose of it to help me with grounding. As I operate in a spiritual way that really doesn’t work for where I am, earth lol.
This home work should help me with drifting. Some may describe it as auto pilot. I think drifting is worse because you will end up 3 exits past your house with no recollection of what happened the past 15 mins. This was happening often in March and a major red flag that I need to align my consciousness.
TALK 2 TASH 3.29.23
I learned of Talk 2 Tash from the radio. I have been listening to her for years. Tash was the last person that I spoke to. You can ask Tash 4-6 questions. I must say this was the absolute hardest thing for me. Figuring out my questions. Then when I spoke to her she immediately addressed a few things only leaving me with two questions and a blank mind. I can’t believe I didn’t have about 100 questions ready to go.
She spoke about self love or my lack of it right after the prayer. I was sick of hearing about self love at this point.
My old interest lingered on IG being nosey and the new person in my life has no interest in settling and has been playing games with women for years.
My son was going to push past some educational challenges and will need a soccer and a mentor to make it through next year.
My love with be found through my work with Hair Therapy
The homework here ironically was to go outside. I do almost everything virtually. The other was to continue to cultivate Hair Therapy not to let it slip away.
The accumulation of homework, the triple layered self care messages and the aint no love happening until I do what seems like an infinite laundry list of self work had me annoyed. I actually had a bit of tears after this call.
CONCLUSION
There was no conflicting information between thee three healers. I put all the information together form a clear big picture.
I was a little disappointed that I didn’t finish with Dahliah. I saved my journal prompts and I have been working at my own pace. Answering those tough questions that shape my perspective of myself and relationships with others.
There was an exercise we did once and my legs didn’t move much at she said it was symbolic of being stuck. While I do not feel stuck I am not sprinting how I hoped but it is better than no movement at all.
